As a college grad, mother of three and successful career woman, Cal State Northridge alum
Mary Mustard Reed appears to have the life of a modern-day super woman, but underneath her strong exterior is a past both traumatic and emotional.
In her recently published book, "Oceans Apart: A Voyage of International Adoption," Reed unearths a childhood marred by war, death and cultural conflict.
"'Oceans Apart' is my story," said Reed. "I experienced an abusive childhood filled with neglect and emotional turmoil. I had learned that my mother was the victim of a bombing in Saigon during the Vietnam War. Years later, however, I learned this was not true, and was reunited with her. This book traces my life and hers, and details the parallels of our personal struggles to overcome and to triumph."
Reed's story is an autobiography unearthing her experience as the first Vietnamese child adopted by an American couple in 1964. From a fatal bout of small pox to an abusive childhood, Reed provides testament to the life and times of an international adoption.
"Originally, when I started this project, I was searching for closure and an answer to the question 'who am I?'" Reed said. "However, as I became more involved in the process, I realized I also wanted to find a way through 'Oceans Apart' to help my children understand the challenging journey that brought me where I am today."
As Reed retraced her footsteps, she intended to provide an incentive for her children to appreciate the "loving family and the many blessings they have.
"I feel I have attained my goal," she continued. "I have grown in my relationship with my children. As a result of this book, they have a new perspective of who mom is and where she came from. This has strengthened their bond not only with me but with each other."
Reed's journey of self-discovery brought her into contact with the poverty and often devastating circumstances Vietnamese children face. Wanting to make a difference, she became involved with Project Vietnam, an organization that works with less fortunate Vietnamese children. A portion of the proceeds from "Oceans Apart" is donated to Project Vietnam.
"It was my mission to demonstrate the power of hope," said Reed. "I shared my painful experiences and spoke of my battle for survival to emphasize the importance of hope and persistence."
Each of Reed's experiences helped to nurture her personal growth and maturity, motivating her to inspire and encourage others through her own story, she said. In particular, her time at CSUN taught her more than just surface-level academics.
"My memories of CSUN are among my most treasured possessions," she said. "Not only did I walk away with a valuable business degree and a chance for success, but with a wonderful network of lifetime friends."
On Monday, Sept. 8, Reed will return to her alma mater to share her experience with faculty and students. In addition, she will be signing copies of her book. The signing will take place from noon to 2 p.m., in the Matador bookstore located at 18111 Nordhoff St. in Northridge.
"Almost three decades after my unforgettable, life-changing years at Cal State Northridge, I am proud to be returning to share my story and present my book," said Reed. "Grateful for the amazing opportunity to pursue my educational dreams on this campus, I know that without the support and encouragement of CSUN faculty and students, I would never have started the remarkable journey which made me who I am."