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I am not your third-base-by-the-third-date kind of girl. In fact, any relationship with the third-base-by-the-third-date strategy is highly unlikely to end up in a World Series championship. Nevertheless, the question begs to be answered: Why is singlehood no longer celebrated? Or, even worse, why are singles considered to be a minority? Prepare to be stimulated…not in the way you imagine, but with brazen sass, a scotch of cynicism and a flailing belief in everlasting lust, err, love.

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Contributed by: Elisha Maldonado on 4/10/2007

Dating: a game of cat and mouse.

I was quasi-dating a guy who didn't like it when women played games (the secret meaning: making him put forth a valid effort.)

I find this ironic because men are notorious for game playing and are even praised for doing so, but when a woman steals the lead in the tango, it suddenly isn't fair.

It's a stereotype that says, for men, all is fair in love and war. While for a woman the straight and narrow path of pleasing men and declaring her feelings for him, instead of the opposite, is becoming a societal norm.

As I recalled the discussion I had with this man, he told me, "Well, Jenn told me you where playing games, and I think you are, too."

We were sitting across a table at his house looking at one another-he with the look of pleading eyes and I, with arms crossed, looking like the judge to whom he was begging for salvation.

I inwardly grinned.

I was forced to explain I was, indeed, playing a game, and it was fair because the men's dating rulebook said so. He didn't understand. Proof men are forgetting how to pursue a woman nobly.

I painted a picture for him. I was the mouse, though not at all timid, and he was the cat who was supposedly on the prowl.

I had been sauntering around his favorite napping spot and, knowing he had been eyeing me, was forcing him to make his move. Really, when has a mouse ever approached a cat?

This is how I view relationships: The man must sweat, court me, offer to carry my books and convince me he is worthy of my time.

Of course, this doesn't mean he would do all the work, I would meet him the last 10 percent.

The revelation of my feelings was based on one condition though: The suitor had confirmed I wouldn't be wasting my time and my real pleasures wouldn't be entrusted to unworthy hands.

The embodiment of the concept is simple. It states when one labors for a cause, you appreciate it that much more.

This is where the rules of the datebook get tricky.

First, in order to have a rulebook a competition must ensue. But, secondly, it is a dog-eat-dog world. To put it more simply, we humans are savage.

As I thought about this, I couldn't help but ask myself again, why do we engage in intimate personal relationships anyway?

Really, I thought, relationships today are liking carrying Maltese poodles in my purse. Right now, they are all the rage, but in a few months, individuality will be the hot must-be status, instead of the hot must-have poodle.

The trend I have noticed is already starting to surface. I can't begin to count the number of intimate personal relationship disasters.

I apologize for the following names in advance: Britney Spears and Kevin Federline, Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe, Paul McCartney and Heather Mills-McCartney-the list is endless.

After reading about these couples, I decided Gene Simmons had it right all along with his "I've been happily unmarried for 25 years" rant.

But how many women like Gene Simmons' girlfriend, Shannon Tweed, would allow their significant others to live with them, have a family together, flirt with otherwomen and pretend he is still available?

It's a game he is allowed to play, and, again it is fair because he has gotten away with it.

However, the point is not to talk about marriage, but rather, the fact men don't want to work for something they supposedly want and women are too easy.

I ask, are we really creatures of monogamy, or do we prefer to bounce around from one person to the next?

Kate Hudson, an American actress, said: "I don't believe monogamy is realistic. But, I believe that we as people have the power to make it happen."

A year later she filed for divorce.

I think I will go for the Maltese poodle.

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